You have been approached by a recruiter. You have answered an ad in the paper or a fellow professional has interested you in looking at another opportunity.
You have gone through the interviewing process and have received an offer, a better opportunity from an innovative company. You have analyzed and agonized over the decision to leave a good (or bad) job for what could be a better one, and have accepted the offer. However, upon resignation, your current boss asks you to stay and has made you a counter offer.
Career changes are tough enough as it is. Anxieties build about leaving a comfortable job, friends, location and having to reprove yourself in an unknown opportunity can cloud your decision.
Just because the new position seems a little scary does not mean it is not a positive move.
Since counter offers can create confusion and buyers remorse, you should understand what is being cast upon you.
Counter offers are typically made in conjunction with some form of flattery, e.g.:
- You are too valuable, we need you.
- You can not desert the team/your friends and leave them hanging.
- We were just about to give you a promotion/raise, and it was confidential until now.
- What did they offer? Why are you leaving? And what do you need in order to stay?
- Why would you want to work for that company?
- The President/CEO wants to meet with you before you make your final decision.
Counter offers usually take the form of:
- More money
- A promotion/more responsibility
- A modified reporting structure
- Promises of future considerations
- Disparaging remarks about the new company or job
- Guilt trips
We all prefer to think we’re MVP’s, it’s natural to want to believe these manipulative appeals, but beware!!! Accepting a counter offer is often the wrong choice. THINK ABOUT IT: If you were worth “X” yesterday, why are they suddenly willing to pay you “X + N” today, when you weren’t expecting a raise anytime soon?
Also consider how you have felt when someone resigned from your staff. The reality is that employers don’t like to be “FIRED”. Your boss is likely concerned that he will look bad, his career may suffer. Bosses are judged in part, by their ability to retain staff. Your leaving may jeopardize an important project, increase workload for others or even foul up vacation schedules. It is never a good time for anyone to quit. It may prove time consuming and costly to replace you. For your employer it is much cheaper to keep you, even at a slightly higher salary. It would be better for them to fire you later, on the company’s own time frame.
Accepting a counter offer can have numerous negative consequences. Consider:
- Where did the additional money or responsibility you would get come from? Was it your next raise or promotion – just given early? Will you be limited in the future? Will you have to threaten to quit in order to receive your next raise? Might a cheaper replacement be sought out?
- You have demonstrated your unhappiness or lack of blind loyalty, and will be perceived as having committed blackmail to gain a raise. You will never be considered a team player again. Many employers will hold a grudge at the next review period, and you may be placed at the top of the next reduction-in-force “hit list”.
- Apart from a short-term, band-aid treatment, nothing will change within the company. After the dust settles from this upheaval, YOU will be in the same old rut. A rule of thumb among recruiters is that more than 80% of those accepting counter offers leave, or are terminated, within 6 to 12 months anyway. Half of those who do succumb reinitiate their job searches with in 90 days.
- Finally, when making your decisions, look at your current job and the new position as if you were unemployed. Which opportunity holds the most real potential? Probably the new opportunity, or else you would not have accepted it in the first place.
Beware of Counter Offers!
Part of the above material was taken from an article by R. Gaines Baty, which appeared in the National Business Employment Weekly.